Goodbye Past Pains... Hello 2012!!!

I trusted him!  He told me that he loved me; we talked about building a life together.  I believed him!  We had history, there had to be mutual love involved.  Obviously not, because at a mere disagreement, he’s gone!  All the dreams, everything I invested in that relationship…  Gone!  How could he do that to me?  How could it be so easy to walk away?  Didn’t I mean ANYTHING to him?  I’m angry, hurt and disappointed!  I also fear being alone and starting all over.  Damn, it’s frustrating to trust again and open my heart to someone else.  How do I move on?

Haven’t we all been there before?  Whether distress was experienced from a lover or sistah friend, carrying hurt or the feelings of betrayal prevent us from trusting and loving again.  How do we move on?  How do we not allow the past pains to reside within?  WE MUST FORGIVE!  Forgiveness is not saying it was okay.  It is never okay to be hurt by another person.  Forgiveness releases the accusation and person from having power over you.  Some of our hurts transpired from our childhood, past marriage, a wayward child or a backstabbing friend.  Have you met someone who is still raging in anger from an offense that happened 10 years ago?  It is so life-damaging and toxic!  The hurt can entangle us and if we are not careful it could become a permanent part of our lives.

Take your power back by forgiving.  Yes, forgiving releases the individual but it also releases YOU.  Forgiveness is a process.  You do not just turn it on and off.  First, you make the decision to forgive then walk out every day with the mindset of letting it go.  When the offense comes to mind, say out loud “You do not have a place in my heart anymore, you must go NOW!”  The more you work on letting go past or present pains the less the sting becomes and it eventually truly becomes a part of your past.

However, learning from the past is empowering.  What did that hurtful relationship teach you?  What are the life lessons from that situation?  Grab hold of the life lesson but release the individual and situation.  We have three more days before entering a new year!  Make the decision NOW to not take that crap, abuse, pain, disappointment into the New Year.  I know it was horrible, the pain is real deep but there is so much awaiting you in 2012; do not pollute a new opportunity with the pain of the past.

Thank you for supporting this blog during 2011.  Here’s to a happy, prosperous, purpose-driven, and exciting New Year!